So maybe you are like me, and you're just kinda stumped on the how of seeking holiness. Here are a few things that have spoken to my heart. There are a ton more, but these are a few that I'd like to share. (I would love to have you share some of your ideas at the end of this post! :)) For starters, we need to fill our minds with things that are pure, honest, just, true, lovely, etc. (Phil 4:8; 2 Tim 2:21) Squashing out the evil with good thoughts!
Next, discard the garbage. There's absolutely no way that we can live a holy life when we are embracing sin or compromising our convictions. Notice I added to "just" sin. There are clear rights and wrongs in the Bible, and following those rules should be a no-brainer in our desire for holiness, but I think it's much deeper than that. James 4:17 says, "Therefore to him that knows to do good, and does it not, to him it is sin." As we seek Christ, and ignore the desire to compare ourselves with those around us, there are going to be issues in our life that "just don't feel right." Is it a spelled out as a sin in the Bible? Perhaps not, but you aren't quite easy inside with doing the action. These are what we call convictions, they are derived from Biblical principles and convictions will vary from believer to believer. Now, if someone says, "Well I don't have a conviction about this or that..." and that action is a sin....then that's not an "optional conviction." Does that make sense? When it comes to convictions, what is right for you, may not be right for me, based on where each of us is at in our walk with God, our past, our marriage partner, our family, etc. Doesn't matter what convictions others around us have, what convictions and standards has God given you? Maybe God has called you to be radically different than the person sitting in the next pew over. Maybe God has a calling for you that you can't begin to fathom, one that he hasn't given to anyone else.
Seek God through prayer and reading His Word. If I want to get to know someone, I mean really know them, what do I do? I spend time with them. I talk with them. I try to please them. I ask them questions and eagerly await their response because that response will help me know them better. That's what happened when Tim and I were dating. We literally spent hours and hours at Subway, King's, or one of our homes, just talking for hours at a time about anything and everything. We wanted to get to know each other, so we did! Same thing in our relationship with Christ: spending time by reading the Bible and talking with God through prayer; making choices that please Him to show our love, interest, and devotion to Him; asking Him to guide us and then searching for His answers of direction in His Word.
Finally, fellowship with believers who are on the same path (seeking holiness). If you've been in church any length of time, you are aware that many people say they are a believer, but their actions speak otherwise. "Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them." (Matthew 7:20) This passage is specifically advising against false, anti-Biblical teachings, but the opposite principle of knowing true faith by seeing Godly fruit is an easy application for all of our lives. Our journey of holiness will be enhanced by surrounding ourselves with others who are striving for the same goal. We can come alongside our brothers and sisters in Christ and encourage and uplift each other as we daily fight the enemy~the world around us, our sinful, selfish flesh, and the devil. It is important to realize that fellowship with a "believer" who does not have a life that produces Godly fruit, is not sufficient. A journey to holiness requires fellowship with others who are serious about the things of God, not those who are on the fence. Should we love, be friendly to, and encourage those who aren't exemplifying a life that follows Christ? ABSOLUTELY! But, they should probably not be our closest friends in this endeavor. For example, if I am trying to condition myself to be a long distance swimmer, I'm probably not going to practice with someone who can barely dog-paddle (that's me! haha). Same idea here; as we seek to go out into the deeper waters of our relationship with Christ, we need training and companionship from others who are seeking a similar goal.